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Quick Answer
Mettā Bhāvanā is the Theravāda loving-kindness practice, the first of the four brahmavihāras. Drawn from Buddhaghosa's Visuddhimagga IX.1-76 and Sharon Salzberg's Lovingkindness (1995), the practice offers four phrases across five categories: self, benefactor, friend, neutral, difficult. Do not skip the self phase.
Tradition and source
Tradition
Theravada Buddhist, the first brahmavihāra
Classical source
Visuddhimagga IX.40 to 82 (Buddhaghosa, 5th c. CE); Karaṇīya Mettā Sutta (Sutta Nipāta 1.8)
Modern source
Sharon Salzberg, Lovingkindness: The Revolutionary Art of Happiness (1995), the modern Western source text
What this practice does
Salzberg co-founded the Insight Meditation Society with Joseph Goldstein and Jack Kornfield. The classical Vism IX.1-76 sequence is a four-category curriculum (self → benefactor → neutral → enemy, with dear friend as a transition stage); Salzberg's Lovingkindness (1995) modernized this into the five-category sequence (self, benefactor, friend, neutral, difficult) and the four-phrase format taught here. Do not skip the self phase. The chain breaks if the first link does not hold.
“May all beings be happy. May all beings be safe. May all beings everywhere be at ease.”
How to practice
The instructions below run 15 to 30 minutes. Read through all the steps before you begin. The practice is not the goal; you are.
Sit comfortably, and let your hands settle wherever they will stay still.
Begin with yourself. Offer four phrases inwardly: may I be safe, may I be well, may I be at ease, may I live with kindness.
Bring to mind a benefactor, someone whose love has been unambiguous. Offer the same four phrases.
Bring to mind a friend. Offer the phrases.
Bring to mind a neutral person, someone you barely know. Offer the phrases.
Bring to mind a difficult person, only after the previous phases land. Offer the phrases.
Close by extending outward, all beings everywhere, for a final moment.
What to notice, and when to stop
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Difficulty and duration
Duration
15 to 30 minutes
Difficulty
beginner
Category
Loving-Kindness (Brahmavihārā)
Crystal companion
In Crystal Cassandra's work, certain stones are the somatic companion to certain practices. The pairing is not magical; it is a steady weight in the palm that becomes part of the noticing.
Rose Quartz
Rose Quartz is the stone most associated with mettā-style practice in the modern Western crystal canon. Many practitioners simply hold it through the difficult-person phase, which gives the hand somewhere to be and keeps the practice a felt thing rather than an argument you are conducting with yourself about someone.
Related practices
These practices complement Mettā Bhāvanā (Loving-Kindness), same category, or matched to overlapping inner weathers.
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